So at this point I’m giddy about the possibility of learning more about James. The mysterious family member that no one ever spoke of. As I detail what has been learned to this point it’s left me with more questions than answers. I’ll pop my questions in throughout the post but I would definitely love to hear what other questions you may have. Or, if there are things we’re missing, let me know!
James came to the United States from Scotland in his early 20’s with one of his brothers. Shortly upon arrival, his brother died (maybe was influenza?). He married my great grandma in Ontario, Canada in 1926. No ideas on how they met, she grew up in Kentucky and Arkansas and eventually came to Michigan. I believe James came through Canada to the US if I follow the records correctly. So perhaps at work, out on the town, who knows? That following summer, my grandma and her sister were born. They didn’t waste any time….I giggled when I realized that.
They moved around southeast Michigan for much of my grandmas childhood, finally settling in the Port Huron area when the girls were in high school. We believe that is around when their brother was born, although we cannot find any evidence anywhere beyond what we’ve heard. Even Cousin Scotland had no idea there was a younger brother.
Around 1958, after my grandma and her sister had both married and begun having children, James, great grandma and little brother moved to California. Here is what puzzles me. From what we know, James was a tool and die maker. In Michigan with a thriving automotive and industrial landscape. Why move to California? And why move away from Michigan when two of your three children are there, along with a growing number of grandchildren?
In 1960, within two years of moving to California, my great grandma was killed in a car accident. We have no details around the circumstances of the accident. It seems unlikely that records even exist from that far back but it would be interesting to know more. She was 60 years old and they had been married for over 30 years. According to family sources, my grandma was pregnant with my youngest aunt when she and her sister flew to California for the funeral. My great grandma was buried in Arkansas.
Here’s where things get fuzzy. From what we know, it sounds like there was very little contact between my grandma and James after that point. In fact, based on family conversations, I’m not sure they ever saw him again. Maybe they spoke on the phone? I do know that James did visit Scotland between that point and his death based on accounts from Cousin Scotland. It seems odd that you would travel to Scotland but not go to Michigan to see your daughters and 6 grandchildren?
To be honest, I think it was at this point where my spidey-senses began tingling. All of that feels really…off? Moving away from where your family is, where your work industry is and the your wife suddenly dies? I know I read and watch a lot of suspense novels and I have a wild imagination, but this is literally the plot of probably dozens of books. Not to mention, at that place in time, it was not as common to move cross country. I know he was not on LinkedIn participating in the Great Resignation looking for a new opportunity.
I digress. Here is where it gets really crazy. We don’t have solid timing on this, but sometime between when his wife died, likely the late 1960’s, he emigrated to Seychelles, Africa. Literally halfway across the world. While I had heard of the Seychelles, I admittedly had to Google where they were. How does that process work in the 1960’s? Also, the younger brother stayed in California. Did he meet someone in California and that’s how he heard about it? Was he running from something? Was he just a super free spirit? This one threw us for a loop. At least we now knew where the mysterious island was…
According to Cousin Scotland, while James was living in Seychelles, he married 2 more times. The first of those (his second marriage), resulted in 2 additional children, two boys. Grandma has two half-brothers! Our best guess is that they were born sometime in the mid-1960’s, younger than their own nieces and nephews. We do know not know if he divorced his second wife or was widowed, again. He married a third time, no children in that marriage that we’re aware of.
James did make a final trip back to Scotland around 1975. My understanding is that he just showed up and no one knew that he would be visiting. That was the time that Cousin Scotland met him in person. From the sounds of it, he was quite a character. There are no details on the reason for the visit, just that it was random and surprised the family. He returned to the Seychelles where he died in 1977. He is buried on one of the islands there.
Upon his death in 1977, the embassy had attempted to find his next of kin to close out his estate, which consisted of a house and a small bank account. He had his son in the US listed as next of kin. However, much like me, they were unable to find him. They reached out to his brother, Cousin Scotland’s grandfather, as the next option. He suggested that they contact his family in the Seychelles to settle the estate. That was the last they heard about it.
There are records that indicate his sons in the Seychelles reached out to his family in Scotland but we don’t believe that anyone ever met in person. I spent a lot of time looking them up online but, even with their full names, have struck out on all of the venues I can think to look. Clearly they take after their older brother and are great at staying off the grid.
At this point, we are happy to have the closure of knowing where James is buried and that in actuality, there really was no estate to “steal” since it would have gone to his most current family. We would love to know more about his personality and the reasoning for moving across the globe away from his family, but that seems pretty unlikely. Especially without having the opportunity to talk with his two younger sons, my great-uncles. I believe those are the closest links we have to learning about him.
Since learning of his move to Seychelles and that it’s likely we actually have living relatives there, we’ve all talked of making a trip to the country to at least see if there is more to learn. At a minimum, it looks like a beautiful place to visit, so it seems like a win-win.
This where we are stuck now. Outside of the standard Google and social media platforms and ancestry, what other avenues are there to find our missing relatives? Do we even try to find them? I definitely welcome all thoughts and suggestions!